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The Deafening Silence: In The Closet Of Suicide

Tyler ClementiThe recent tragic death of Tyler Clementi, an 18 year-old Rutgers University Freshman whose sexual tryst was broadcast across the Internet leading to his subsequent suicidal jump off the George Washington Bridge, has gay activists and advocates screaming for a call to action.

This story is not that of one, but of many. Hazing mainly happens in school, especially in college, when many LGBT individuals are discovering their sexual orientation. In the case of Clementi, his unspoken sexuality was exposed twice across the Internet, which begs the question: would this have happened if he were straight?

As someone who has been personally persecuted by people of the likes of Dharun Ravi, I tend to think not. Straight people have sex on TV, in magazines and in movies everyday; gay sexuality is still not mainstream. Whether the actions of the college students were out of curiosity—or just a sophomoric prank or bigotry— remains to be answered.

In high schools and colleges across the nation, kids and young adults are forced into silence for fear of retaliation. Unless a person of authority personally intercepts malicious behavior unto another student, silence follows. It takes the death of someone to instill change in schools or a community, but these changes are often short-lived and wildly ineffective, since teachers and others are often too passive to defend the meek.

Now, another person is dead. A talented and gifted musician died because of torment inflicted over his sexual orientation. If being gay had to be personified from a state of being into an emotional context, it would be love. So, in essence these people were tortured, and in some cases killed, because they found the ability to love. This isn’t a legislative problem; it is one of society as a whole – Blind-eye syndrome.

How many more people need to die before something is done? The Matthew Shepard Law helps, but it doesn’t do enough as a preventative measure.

At my high school in Massachusetts, our Gay-Straight Alliance wrote and enacted an anti-harassment policy to reduce the level of violence and hate speech at the school. This policy was left practically unenforced until the death of Phoebe Prince, which lead to an anti-bullying state law enacted in her honor. This law was written in blood, just like the Shepard law.

Politicians, such as Tom Emmer, the current Republican candidate for governor in Minnesota — a candidate financially supported by major corporations such as Target, Best Buy and 3M — feels that our society does not need bullying laws. In fact, during one of his campaign speeches, he said that if he were elected governor, he would veto the Safe Schools for All bill, a bill that includes protection for students bullied because of sexual orientation, gender, race, religion and disability.

The Facts:

  • 45% of gay males and 20% of lesbians report having experienced verbal harassment and/or physical violence as a result of their sexual orientation during high school.
  • 42% of adolescent lesbians and 34% of adolescent gay males who have suffered physical attack also attempt suicide.
  • 20% of LGB youth report skipping school at least once a month because of feeling unsafe while there.
  • 19% of gay/lesbian youth report suffering physical attacks based on their sexual orientation.

[Source: Lambda.org]

If LGBT Americans had equal rights and were not treated as a minority, heterosexual kids would grow up thinking of them as their fellow humans. Not a subhuman class that should be persecuted, ridiculed, and tortured because they love someone of the same sex. This problem will persist, more people will die, and more laws will be written in their blood until we start changing on a societal level. Gandhi said, “be the change you want to see in the world,” start practicing compassion and lets stop the deaths now!

WWJH: Who Would Jesus Hate?

I have to take a moment away from my typical posts and really shed some light on a horrible issue. The gay rights movement has been gaining momentum over the past few decades, and has been met with a deadly amount of retaliation. Now, American “Christians” are taking on a new frontier in the fight against equality: Africa.

Take a moment and watch this video recently posted by ABC News: [Click here]

"The gay movement is an evil institution. That's goal is to defeat the marriage-based society"

I find myself asking, “who would Jesus hate?“.

All this hatred, and all this violence unto our fellow human beings, “and yet God has not said a word!” It makes me wonder…

Liberty and Justice for All? Hardly.

Editor’s Note: As of August 4th, 2010 Proposition 8 was ruled unconstitutional by Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker. However, this is not the end of the road, the next step is DOMA.

We are moving forward gayly!

-J

Photo by Bob Johnson

The Will Of The Majority v. The Rights Of The Minority
By Joshua Plant

The infamous Prop 8 was passed a year ago and, just two weeks ago, Maine voters repealed gay marriage by a 53 percent majority. These laws are a complete contradiction to several cases that have fallen before the Supreme Court over the past sixty years — cases that explicitly state that marriage is a fundamental human right under the Equality Protection clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. Furthermore, according to The Principles of Democracy, “majority rule is a means for organizing government and deciding public issues; it is not another road to oppression.” Yet, in 31 states we have used majority rule to justify the oppression of LGBT Americans.

The Conservative Right has offered us an olive branch with a separate but “equal” system, marriage for them, and civil unions for us. Gay marriage has become the water fountains of the 1950s: LGBT individuals are separate but by no means equal.

Thanks, but no thanks.

If religious leaders and other naysayers want to keep the so-called sanctity of marriage intact, they should demand a constitutional ban on divorce. Such a ban would ensure that our country will preserve the sanctity of marriage. With a divorce rate higher than 50 percent, heterosexuals have shown us that unions cannot stand the test of time.

If the majority wanted to keep marriage strictly as a religious institution, then so it should be, albeit with the understanding that a marriage has no legal merit. Marriage would simply become a union of one man and one woman under God.

In order to receive the benefits that the LGBT community has been deprived of, all couples would be required to get a civil union. This would be equal. This would be fair. Because Churches and other religious institutions do not receive federal aid and will no longer be able to perform a ceremony with legal merit, our country would experience a genuine separation of church and state.

This, however, is only half the battle. Even if all 50 states pass laws allowing same-sex couples to marry, LGBT individuals will continue to be denied federal marriage benefits.

In 1996 when the United States Congress passed the ‘Defense of Marriage Act,’ signed by President Clinton, the federal government started denying same-sex couples all federal benefits and defined marriage as one man and one woman. So, regardless of how tolerant our state government may be, our country will still have a separate and unequal system under DOMA.

How can the Supreme Court allow states to segregate by way of public referendum? They continue to do so even though Justice Antonin Scalia, a foe of gay rights, wrote in Lawrence v. Texas: “What justification could there possibly be for denying the benefits of marriage to homosexual couples exercising “[t]he liberty protected by the Constitution”? Surely not the encouragement of procreation, since the sterile and the elderly are allowed to marry”

The U.S. had this same debate for another ‘class’ of individuals until 1967 when the Court unanimously overturned laws of more than 20 states that prohibited interracial marriage in Loving v. Virginia. There is no logical argument to justify the inequality that exists today for same-sex couples.

The LGBT community has suffered through relentless oppression, violence and inequality under the law for long enough. It is time to change this country and bring the U.S. out of a puritanical mindset and into the year 2009.

Joshua Plant is a New York City-based writer

We’ll do it in the rain…

Not much else to say about gay marriage…

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

Don't Ask, Don't TellEmpty campaign promises are a normal occurrence. But Obama pushed the issue so fervently and he is proclaiming to be such an advocate, yet he washes his hands of any and all gay issues – there is where I find fault and have a problem.

Bringing this issue to the forefront is not too much to ask when you have him saying things like, “I think it is no secret that I am a fierce advocate for equality for gay and lesbian Americans…” (12-18-08) and “I will work for a full repeal of ‘Don’t ask, Don’t Tell’… that work should have been started long ago. It will start when I take office.” (11/19/08)

With him being such an ‘advocate’ and making such profound campaign promises, he should be expected to follow through. Obama mentioned D.A.D.T. on numerous occasions on the campaign trail and as President-Elect, suggesting it was one of his top priorities. The least he could do would be to stay any firings/discharges of those who are serving in our military that are gay. But, alas, nothing has been done. And given the track record of his laundry list of campaign promises, I doubt anything will be done anytime soon – if at all.

The question still remains; is this a top-priority issue? My answer is simple, no. But the reason it is important is because of his empty promises that are adding up as each day passes. Several of his ‘promises’ can be issued as executive orders. Or, at very least, be equally as fervent of an ‘advocate’ as he was on the campaign trail. If he is worried about public opinion and his approval ratings, then he needs to rethink himself. He won with the public knowing his stance on these issues, why flip-flop once in office?

I really am at a loss for words with him. Yes, I voted for him. Yes, he is better than a McCain Palin ticket. But, overall, was he a mistake?